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Types Of Hymen

Hymens can come in different shapes. The most common hymen in young girls is shaped like a half moon. This shape allows menstrual blood to flow out of a girl's vagina.

Imperforate Hymen: An imperforate hymen can be diagnosed at birth. Rarely, the diagnosis isn't made until the teen years. An imperforate hymen is a thin membrane that completely covers the opening to the vagina. Menstrual blood cannot flow out of the vagina. This usually causes the blood to back up into the vagina which often develops into an abdominal mass and abdominal and/or back pain. Some teens may also have pain with bowel movements and difficulty passing urine.

The treatment for an imperforate hymen is minor surgery to remove the extra hymenal tissue and create a normal sized vaginal opening so that menstrual blood can flow out of the vagina.

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Microperforated Hymen

Microperforated Hymen: This is a thin membrane that almost completely covers the opening to a young woman's vagina. Menstrual blood is usually able to flow out of the vagina but the opening is very small. A teen with a microperforate hymen usually will not be able to get a tampon (A tampon is what a girl can use when she's on her period. It's a long, slender thing that a girl can insert in her vagina to absorb the blood. Sorry to be graphic but there is really no other way to explain it. Lots of girls prefer tampons because you can't feel them so they are more comfortable than pads) into her vagina and may not realize that she has a very tiny opening. If she is able to put a tampon into her vagina she may not be able to remove it when it becomes filled with blood. The treatment is minor surgery to remove the extra hymenal tissue making a normal sized opening for menstrual blood to flow out.

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Septate Hymen

Septate Hymen: A septate hymen is when the thin hymenal membrane has a band of extra tissue in the middle that causes two small vaginal openings instead of one. Teens with a septate hymen may have trouble getting a tampon in or trouble getting a tampon out. The treatment for a septate hymen is minor surgery to remove the extra band of tissue and create a normal sized vaginal opening.

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It is a mucous membrane that is part of the vulva, the external genital organs. It is located outside the vagina. The hymen is a layer of tissue, just like the tissue around the opening of your vagina that partially conceals the vaginal orifice. You may or may not have one, but most females do. The hymen is not an indicator of virginity; a girl is a virgin until she has been penetrated by a penis. The hymen is named after the Greek god Hymenaeus - the god of marriage and weddings. FYI.

During the early stages of fetal development there is no opening into the vagina at all. The thin layer of tissue that conceals the vagina at this time usually divides incompletely prior to birth, forming the hymen. The size and shape of this opening (or openings) varies greatly from person to person.

Sometimes this formation of an opening does not occur; resulting in an imperforated hymen (it lacks the more common opening). Some females have no hymen at birth at all, since the tissue divided completely while they were still in the womb. Some hymens are elastic enough to permit a penis to enter without tearing, or they tear only partially, and there is NO bleeding at all. When adequately lubricated the vagina is fairly 'flexible' and will stretch without discomfort for most women. Sometimes, a woman has sex for years with no real 'tearing' at all, only stretching of the hymen and then at another time the same woman might tear from 'rough sex' or sex with a different partner with a larger penis. Remnants of the hymen are usually still present until a woman delivers a baby vaginally.

Some people thought virginity is just for girls alone and not for boys, so they go about engaging in sex with girls at their youthful age. Some even boast about making as many girls as possible lose their virginity. They take pride in causing pain and regret for fellow humans!

Guys, remember that you cannot destroy another person’s house and be praying for the steadfastness of your own house.

In our last edition of Virginity and Sex Newsletter you were told the origin of ‘virginity’ and it is very important for you to keep yourself pure.

Before I tell you what you will lose if you deflower yourself, let me quickly tell you this story.

There is a sister called Angela, in her twenties she was still a virgin and because of that she said to herself that she would not allow any guy to deflower her except her husband, she refused to get engaged with any guy because she believed that guys are like vipers.

But on a fateful day, she met a guy and she immediately began to love him, (what some people call “love at first sight”) She couldn’t believe what was happening to her because she had never loved any guy like that before, but she couldn’t hide her feelings.

Fortunately the guy also loved her but they had never met, neither did they know anything about one another. You know guys now? He geared up his mind and wooed the girl on that day. The girl felt like responding in the affirmative immediately so that they can start their relationship but you know girls, they always say “let me go and think about it” even while some of them have their answer at that point they wouldn’t want the guys to have the feeling that they are “cheap.”

Sometimes later, the guy inquired about his proposal and she gave him a positive response. Both of them one day told themselves that, they were happy. They however faced the challenge of their friends who were advising them to have sex so that they could get rid of the “pimples” on their chicks. (The advice came from different friends), to cut the long story short, they deflowered themselves in order to get rid of pimples, but the pimples refused to go.

However, since both of them had ‘opened the bottle’, they couldn’t control themselves anymore; they went ahead having sex, this made them lose respect for each other because they had seen what they were respecting themselves for.

The girl came one day to get the guy informed that she is not interested in the relationship any more without any good reason as he confessed.

Now, let me ask, is that the right time for the girl to end up the relationship? Who is at fault? It is not easy to cover the opened bottle, you know? Have you ever noticed what happened between you and your guy when he has ‘opened your bottle’? Keeping yourself pure and undefiled gives you the following:

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Reward of blessing

2. HIGH BLESSING Luke 1: 28b

- - - - blessed are you among women.

This place is telling us that when you keep your virginity you will be blessed among your colleagues, if something is not going smoothly with you, may be you have turned the blessing of God in your lives into another thing – curse.

When you are praying and you do not receive answers to your prayers, you might have missed it somewhere, may be you want to choose your life partner and 2 or 3 brothers or sisters are coming your way and you are thinking God is talking to you, check your ways.

For God to say ‘blessed’ is Mary among women, she must have put up some behaviour that surpasses her peers’.

Now before you read further, I want you to think of what Mary possessed before she was called “blessed”

What can you think of? But I can think of:

a. She did not expose her nakedness for people to see. I Cor 6: 20

b. She his faithful to her husband

c. She did not paint her lips and eyelids with all sorts of colours. Proverb

d. She is virtuous Proverb 31: 29

e. She did not allow any guys to finger or romance her.

f. She did not tattoo her body. Lev 17: 28

And many others you can think of, no virgin doing these things receive any blessing from God.

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It makes you bold

3. BOLDNESS

When you keep your virginity, you will be bold like a lion; according to the story above, the lady can boldly tell the man that she is a virgin but peradventure she has slept with many guys can she say it boldly? No, it is not possible. Can you remember the story of Anna the prophetess, the daughter of Phanuel, of the tribe or Asher, the bible recorded that she lived with a husband for seven years from her virginity and was unable to give birth. Just because of her boldness and consistent fasting and prayers she finally gave birth. Mind you, she confronted God to remind Him of all she had done to keep her virginity till she got married and how she had kept herself till her wedding day. Do you also have such boldness to confront God about your life?

Hum... Many of our marriage counselors can hardly say it loud and clear that, they are virgins before they got married nowadays!

But let me tell you if you can be a virgin until your wedding night, you will have the boldness in the presence of the following:-

  • Fiancé / Fiancée

  • Pastor
  • Church
  • Children

Note: Be careful about whom you will tell that you are a Virgin and even if you want to tell them let it be after your marriage.

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It is your glory

4. GLORY

Before Mary gave birth to Jesus, the angel told her everything that would happen but Mary kept them in her heart (Luke 2:19) expecting what will happen, the star of her first son was seen throughout Jerusalem and everywhere. There is no way you will tell the story of Jesus without mentioning Mary’s name. For you to keep your virginity you are also keeping your glory; it may tarry but it will definitely come to pass one day. YOUR VIRGINITY IS YOUR GLORY: KEEP IT.

To any merit there must be some demerits you will say. What are those things you will lose if you have lost your virginity?

Everything listed above may not be yours because you have defiled the temple of God (1Cor 3: 17; 6: 19)

Let me shed more light on what you will lose or what you have lost when you are no more a virgin.

You will lose your glory:

Do you know when you keep your virginity you will have good story to share with your spouse and children, you can boldly remind your spouse about how he met you (not an empty drum that make a louder noise) but when you’ve been disvirgined can you remind him of that?

Do you know your virginity is your glory? As you have sex before marriage, you are losing you glory. Now, when you have been praying to have a great wedding day and to enjoy your honeymoon but you have already ate the fruit that is meant for your honeymoon only, what do you intend to enjoy.

Moreover, all the merits above that are meant for your advantages may also turn out to be disadvantages if you do not stop having sex or you don’t enter into it at all.

1 Cor 7: 34 says “there is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The virgin unmarried woman cares for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit, but she that is married cares for the things of the world, how she may please her husband” (KJV)

When you are a virgin the fear of the Lord will be inside of you, but when you’ve deflowered yourself, when your pastor is preaching on sex all what you will be thinking of is “I’m not concerned’ And when you are thinking about God always, you will not lose his provision in your life.

God recognizes a virgin every time he/she prays to God, especially when he/she can be in his/her closet naked and challenge God that His temple has not been defiled (i.e your body) you will see that our God is faithful.

In our next edition, you will see why you need to keep your virginity, but before then, 1 Cor 7:37 says, Nevertheless he that stands steadfast in his heart, having no necessity, but has power over his own will, and has so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin does well. (KJV)

Be focused and you will not subject your body to sex.

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You will attract high favour

1. HIGH FAVOUR: Luke 1: 26- 28.

28; and the angel came in unto her and said Hail,

You that are highly favoured, the Lord is with you:

Blessed are you among women.

Is Mary the only young lady in Nazareth? I think the answer is capital NO, but if you study the passage very well, you will see that God recognizes Mary; I pray that God will recognize you today in Jesus’ name.

So, before Mary could be favoured among all young women in Nazareth, she had been well behaved, she did not keep bad company and her integrity was not questionable, she kept herself pure despite all odds. That was why she could keep her virginity. If you want God to favour you, you must keep yourself pure.

Don’t forget that Mary had a fiancé whose name was Joseph, God cannot allow His only son to be given birth to in a house where the husband is undisciplined when it comes to the opposite sex, drunkenness, reveling etc i.e where the husband is not a virgin.

Moreover, where a wife is highly favoured, what do you think will happen to the husband? He will be more highly favoured. Guys, let us keep our virginity so that we can be more highly favoured in the presence of God.

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Types Of Hymen

Hymens can come in different shapes. The most common hymen in young girls is shaped like a half moon. This shape allows menstrual blood to flow out of a girl's vagina.

Imperforate Hymen: An imperforate hymen can be diagnosed at birth. Rarely, the diagnosis isn't made until the teen years. An imperforate hymen is a thin membrane that completely covers the opening to the vagina. Menstrual blood cannot flow out of the vagina. This usually causes the blood to back up into the vagina which often develops into an abdominal mass and abdominal and/or back pain. Some teens may also have pain with bowel movements and difficulty passing urine.

The treatment for an imperforate hymen is minor surgery to remove the extra hymenal tissue and create a normal sized vaginal opening so that menstrual blood can flow out of the vagina.